You can share with your partner a time when you responded with grace rather than hostility to something that would normally bug you. Or, you might share an insight you experienced regarding a certain way to make your lire less stressful, or a new way to look at a problem or a frustration.
The reason this process is so powerful is that it helps you put more emphasis and attention on what’s right with your relationship and with your life—what’s working, what you’re grateful about, and what’s not bothering you—these and other factors that keep you from sweating the small stuff. It also brings to the surface ideas and tips on how each of you can become more relaxed and loving.
Jennifer had spent most of her life “holding on” to things that bothered her. Usually, when someone would do something she didn’t like, she would hold a grudge, or at least hold it against chat person for a long, long time. At
times, this made her come across as harsh and demanding.
One day, however, all of that began to change. Someone at work had taken credit for an idea that she had developed. To make matters worse, her co-worker not only stole her idea, but was offered a special project in recognition of her “creative thinking.”
Even if she wanted to, there was nothing Jennifer could do about it, as there was no realistic way to prove the injustice. For a while she fell into her old habit and was furious. She was playing out a war (with her co-worker) in
her mind, thinking of ways she might retaliate.
Then, she had an insight. She realized that her own thinking was making matters worse than they already were and that she was blowing the incident out of proportion. She decided that she was tired of being angry and resentful and that she was Anally ready to try something different. For a long time, Jennifer wanted to be happy. She had been reading about the power of forgiveness and had understood it, on an intellectual level. However, until this experience, she hadn’t been able to put forgiveness into practice.
Because of the blatant nature of the situation, she decided that this was the perfect opportunity to practice it.
She decided to forgive, and as soon as she did, her heart began to open. She began to relax, just enough to become more accepting of the situation and to lee go of her resentment. She realized that a vast majority of the time
people were honest and didn’t steal ideas from her, or others. Further, she came to the conclusion that the person who stole her idea needed not hatred, but compassion.
She shared her insight of forgiveness with her boyfriend. He was so impressed with her ability to open her heart in a difficult situation that it opened the door to a brand-new type of communication between them.
The new level of depth in their communication and in their relationship was impressive. It led to other instances when Jennifer was able to choose forgiveness over resentment and deepened their relationship.
A small act of sharing of insight can effectively change your level of relationship a profound step on how to save a relationship. Remember you have the power to grow love just with the correct relationship advice. Find the power to save your marriage here with Secrets to Lasting Love
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